How to Deal with the unexpected.
We live in a world where just about everything gives us anxiety…. work, school, kids. finances, health, the future, commuting, relationships, the weather, and a whole host of other things. These things are all real facts of life that have the power to grip our emotions and even paralyze us preventing us from being productive.
We all have different priorities in life and therefore structure our lives accordingly. Many of the things that take us by surprise in life are things we don’t give much thought or attention to.
Relationshps
I think that one of the most magical times in a woman’s life is when she meets someone she really likes and begins the process of getting to know that person. The excitement and anticipation of falling in love is a very special time. However, this can be a slow process which may cause some anxiety. When anxiety is present it can cloud judgement and cause us to overlook the things that could be vital to future decisions.
Why do we become anxious?
We become anxious when we focus on our limitations and our overall inability to control situations. We become anxious when we attempt to control situations that are not within our control. So the question is should we place our emphasis on our limitations or is it best to identify the things we can control and begin to work within these areas.
What can we control?
Let’s look at some of the things we can control. We can control our decisions. These are for example our friends, our profession, where we live, who we marry etc. These decisions are challenging in and of themselves but they are within our control.
We cannot control someone else’s decisions.
When these important decisions in life are compounded with the unexpected it can be overwhelming. For instance, whenever we’re presented with a situation without warning, or given an opportunity for preparation, it’s creates a challenge.
One of the most stressful situations in life is an unexpected breakup. How do you prepare yourself for something as devastating as this? Although, the possibility is always there, I feel it can be reduced when better judgment is used. Becoming a better judge of character could limit the possibility of disappointment..
Character
There are certain qualities that a person of good character displays through his or her actions. You see, anyone can say they’re honest, sincere, and loyal. But not everyone can demonstrate these characteristics. Let’s face it, if these traits aren’t a part of a person’s DNA they simply can’t be defined by them.
Anyone who’s capable of dropping you like a hot potato without indication or communication is not a person of good character no matter the reason. If you were in a committed and exclusive relationship you deserve an explanation. Even relationships between friends require more consideration than this.
And, what adds to the impact of a unexpected breakup is the extreme suddenness of the act. Thanks to technology a person can simply block you if they no longer want to have anything to do with you. This is the quick and easy way for those who lack character and integrity.
Take the time to find out who your date is up front and you’ll save time in the end.
I’d like to leave you with (4) Suggestions
1. Use this dating time as a time of investigation rather than just infatuation.
2. Don’t let the situation get the best of you. I know that’s easier said than done. But try to remember who you were before this disappointment.
3. Don’t beat yourself up over things you can’t control.
4. If you need help getting through whatever it is that’s trying to grip your life don’t hesitate to find someone to help you get through it all.