Are Men Becoming Less Aggressive?

Attributing Factors

This is a question I was asked recently. After thinking about it for a while I had to agree that there does seem to be less of a forward approach of men toward women in the dating arena. I’m not sure if it’s because women travel in groups and this may be a little intimidating to men or whether it’s just the times, we live in. Or, perhaps women are too aggressive. Then of course there’s online dating which is probably considered the best way to cut down on rejection. Who knows, there may be a combination of factors attributing to this lack of aggression.

I only know that there is one primary factor needed in order to initiate action and that is motivation.

All actions, such as aggression, stem from a reason or reasons for acting. These reasons are called motivators which cannot be performed without a desire and a value for the thing that is motivating us.

 For example, we go to work because we value the money and are motivated by the constant reminder of what life would be without work. We travel because we’re motivated by the excitement of seeing new places and by the desire and anticipation of the experience. We maintain our health because we’re motivated by the consequence of neglecting it. When we participate in sports, music, dance, etc. we’re motivated by our passion and the personal fulfillment we receive while participating. We care for our families, households, and friends because we’re motivated by our love and commitment to them.

Motivators

Ultimately, people in general are motivated by consequences, desire, passion, love and commitment. Without motivation, there is no action.

Which leads me to ask this question – of these 5 which ones are the top motivators for men? I would venture to say its passion and desire.  If you go out on a date and your date is passive there’s obviously not enough interest that could motivate him to take it to the next level.

On the other hand, women may be more motivated by love, and commitment. When these 2 are present it’s all systems go.  Try to avoid all actions that have the potential to kill motivation. This is a subject in and of itself which will be shared in a future blog.

Ok, you say what’s wrong with the woman being aggressive? The goal here is for the man to take initiative and show you the level of his interest When a woman is aggressive it can kill all motivation – present and future. Try to avoid all actions that have the potential to kill motivation. This is a subject in and of itself which will be shared in a future blog.

We must note that it’s possible for men to be passionate and not be sincere or in love. So, it’s up to you to determine who he is and what’s he’s about.

Also, let’s bear in mind that it is extremely difficult for a man to maintain a feeling of passion for someone he does not value. Which is why it is imperative that women carry themselves as people of worth at all times.

Show your worth – respect yourselves and see what a difference it makes in your life and in your relationships.